We completely understand that pregnancy is a challenging period for you and your partner. Your wife keeps having mood swings and blaming you for random things. You are trying to do the best that you can but sometimes it gets difficult. And that is completely OK. It is important to prioritize the health and wellness of the mother during pregnancy. Keeping her happy is important because her state of mind can affect the health of your baby. Also, she is going through a lot.
Here are some things that you can do to make this experience better for your wife:
#1 Put her first
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When she is being moody or fussy, keep thinking about the good things. Put her first at all times. It helps to think about how much pain and discomfort she is in. Do everything that you can to make her comfortable. By putting her first, you are showing her that you will always be there for her. It helps you bond better and also develops a sense of intimacy like never before. The trust and closeness between a couple intensify as they enter parenthood.
#2 Give her a shoulder to cry on
Yes, you could be wondering what it’s so sad about a cartoon puppy limping. When your wife is pregnant, there is a firework of hormones that is bursting inside her. She can get upset about anything and everything. You might not understand why she is sad. But now is not the time to impart wisdom or logic. If she wants to cry, just let her. Be a shoulder for her to lean on and cry on. It also gives you good practice for dealing with a bawling baby and toddler in the coming years.
#3 Massage her
Pregnancy is the time when everything is aching. Her foot, back, head, everything. If she appears to be tired, offer to give her a massage. It will make her day. Give her a good back rub now and then and press her feet as well. By helping her relax, you will also be fixing her bad mood which seems to be pretty much all the time now. She is very stressed about the pregnancy – more than she tells you. Give her a massage and talk to her. Let her share her worries with you so that you can reassure her.
#4 Help her with the house chores
Your wonderful wife is preparing to be a mother. You know how your mother was when you were a kid. Multitasking is second nature to most moms. When the baby comes, she will have so much on her plate. Help her with the household chores now so that she can relax once in a while and take the much-needed break before her hands are unbelievably full. Surprise her by washing the dishes and doing the laundry without her asking. Take the garbage out. Just by doing these tiny things, you will be making her extremely happy. And yes, continue to do the same after the baby comes as well; you will be setting a wonderful example!
#5 Remind her that she is beautiful!
Of course, she is. You know that. So tell her that every so often. With all the hormones missing her thought process, her self-esteem is pretty low right now. She feels bloated all the time. And naturally, she has put on some pounds like she is supposed to. These downsides to pregnancy can make a woman feel inadequate and insecure. Remind her that she is beautiful whenever you can. Make her feel desired and show her that no matter what, you are so madly in love with her.
#6 Be patient with her
From 3 AM cravings for pasta salad to crying for no reason, your pregnant wife can get a bit annoying. However, it is very important to be patient during this time. You know that she is not usually like this and it is because of what she is going through. Moreover, if you snap at her, she is not going to take it lightly. It is her time to be dramatic and senseless thanks to the baby brain at least for now. When she becomes a mother and has her baby home, she is going to have no time to annoy you anyway. So just hold on tight.
Small gestures like this can make all the difference in the world and make pregnancy so much easier for your wife. Remind yourself to buy her presents as well! Reassure her constantly and make her feel that she is not alone in this. She has you to figure things out with her.